Celebrating Love
What is the best gift for yourself (if you are single) or for yourself and your beloved (if you are in a relationship) on St Valentine?
Many people break their head over a gift desperately trying to find something.
Let me share with you what will be the best gift. And for which you might not need to visit even a single shop.
We all want to feel loved.
Yet, the way we like to be loved is different from person to person.
Have you heard about the 5 love languages?
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving gifts
- Physical touch
- Quality Time
We all have either one of these or our unique love language.
For me it’s Physical Touch. For my partner these are Words of Affirmation and Having Alone Space.
So if I were single, I would give myself a gift of spending a day at a spa, with booking a massage. Or, I’d invite friends over for a Tantra Massage exchange.
My partner is smart and yesterday he suggested himself: "how about we spend longer time massaging each other?" We exchange physical touch consciously almost every day, but even longer – oh yes, this is totally up my alley! No better gift possible.
For my partner, Words of Affirmation and Having Alone Space (unique to him) are his love languages. So, showering him with positive words of love, what I appreciate about him, what I love in him, gifting him a letter or a card plus giving him space to do his own thing would make the best St Valentine for him.
And so, if we want to celebrate our Love on St Valentine, we can combine all the elements of our love languages into one day.
And by the way, let's not forget our little ones as they also have their own love language and we can celebrate St Valentine with them too. Our girl looooves quality time together, being with mommy and daddy at the same time - so we'll play her favorite toys with her ALL together.
In the comments I attach more ideas for yourself, your partner and your child(ren).
And if you are not sure what your partner’s love language is, don’t assume, but better ask them directly. How would you feel most loved on St Valentine? Projecting your own love language on to them and giving them an expression of love that you would actually love to receive yourself is what You will enjoy, but will they?
And don’t forget to share your love language with them and how you wish to spend the day! Make it conscious and co-create the best day to celebrate love together!!!
Alexa Mira
