One woman sent me these questions a few days ago, and I'd like to share the answers here as I receive this type of questions very often.
How do you communicate to your partner what you want in intimacy? How to postpone his release, so we both can enjoy it longer? I feel that my needs at this moment are not fulfilled and I feel frustration. I want to know what I can do in this case.
How do you communicate to your partner what you want in intimacy?
Often, what we want is not so much the WHAT or the HOW, but a certain attitude, a certain state of consciousness that allows us to receive the other, to merge and to enjoy intimacy together. Your partner may do exactly what you tell him to do and yet it won't be fulfilling.
You may learn to communicate in a very loving and beautiful way, and yet your partner may still not be able to give it to you. Not because s/he doesn't want, but because s/he simply can't at this moment.
To explain a state of consciousness that you wish to meet in is not an easy thing to do. There is no quick fix here. It's rather a journey of mutual re-discovery and re-alignment, and best with some skillful guidance.
Most probably, both will need to shed conditioned layers before meeting in deep and fulfilling intimacy together. But it's definitely possible!
How to postpone his release, so we both can enjoy the sexual intercourse longer?
Biologically, men are programmed to ejaculate fast. But for pleasure purposes where both partners can travel to the depths of bliss, new skills are needed, and one of them is to learn to prolong love making, so a man can make love for as long as he and his partner want it.
Men can learn to control their ejaculation and also to experience orgasms without ejaculation, by learning to move their energy into higher energy centers. Learning this is a committed process that will not only significantly upgrade the quality of love making, but will have an incredible impact on his whole life.
Many men, before they try it, are quite skeptical about this Tantric possibility, but once they start mastering it, they don't want to go back to the old way of love making.
I feel that my needs at this moment are not fulfilled and I feel frustration. I want to know what I can do in this case.
If it's not possible for your needs to be fulfilled with your partner now, then best you put your focus at this moment to learn to take care of your intimate needs yourself, through high quality nourishing and fulfilling self-pleasure practices. By you taking care of yourself, you do not only fill your own cup and dissolve frustration, you also become the embodiment of a new possibility, that will not leave your partner untouched. He will definitely notice it and new things may start opening up from there.
All of this and more, I cover in my 1 year Tantra program "Expansion into Love" where the focus is on learning and practicing new ways of being intimate with each other.
From my experience, men usually take longer to open up to LEARNING in intimacy. Many of them try to figure it out by themselves, or believe that there is something wrong with them if their partner invites them to go to a Tantra program. I see how eager women are to create intimacy they long for, and, of course, they need men to come to the party and meet them in it. Women can't do it alone.
I'd like to share some testimonials from men here, these are specifically from Module 3 "Unleash your Ecstatic Potential" that took place last week:
"I'd like to thank you again, Alexa, for the growth processes and amazing experiences, I took huge steps and incredible things are happening to me. Besides the fact that I became way more sensitive and feel things much stronger, in my relationship with my partner I feel much more connected. We are literally blossoming together now. I stand much more rooted in my power. How beautiful it can be!"
"My intention was met. I feel this module has opened me even further, feeling more in touch with my body, allowing it to move with my natural flow. I also realized that I already created the life I wanted to live, all of my environment is created. It's just me who wasn't living it fully."
"Thank you for a wonderful retreat, full of loving energy. My biggest take-away is the awakened ability to feel better what my body tells me and act accordingly. I was amazed by the clarity of signals that I can receive if I am alert and I commit to continue listening to these signals in all aspects of my life. I am very grateful for these four days and looking forward to continuing the journey with you."
"What an incredible experience! Fascinating how retreat unfolds. The build up of practices that followed one after the other was just perfect and gave me a feeling of trust to step into unknown experiences. I always felt space and safety to be myself."
Next 1 Year Program "Expansion into Love" starting in August is almost FULLY booked. There are still a few open spots for MEN to join, and for 4 more COUPLES.
https://templeoftantricarts.com/conscious-intimacy
For WOMEN specifically, to be intimately fulfilled and empowered, we need to uncover the hidden possibilities that most of us are not even aware of exist. Honoring the Sacred Retreat is a great opportunity for this. There is space for 5 more women to join with the Early Bird offer.
https://templeoftantricarts.com/honoring-the-sacred...
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