Life gifted me with one of the most magical seksual experiences today. Unexpectedly, just like that.
Spontaneously, context conditions were met for it to happen: our daughter went to spend a day with her grandma and there was plenty of time.
And we happened to have a very authentic and vulnerable conversation with each other. This was KEY, because it aligned our energy on many different levels to a degree that at some point we were magnetized to each other like two opposite poles.
Today's experience inspired me to share how some of the Tantric principles (and other principles) can be applied to the most intimate situations, including sex.
Align energetically on all levels by sharing where you are at. Bring things that are in the shadow (you'll notice them by getting into your head) to the Light by communicating them. Dare to be fully transparent. Repeat if needed during your love making at any time.
Let go of any concepts and ideas about yourself and your partner and see him/her as if for the first time. Let go of any ideas and concepts of what should happen - step into unknown and feel what is present in each moment. Be in a state of awe of what's unfolding. This is called Transfiguration.
Stay intimate even if you feel other things than pleasure or fun. Boredom, numbness, sadness, or rage - give it all space. Embody and express. Be yourself in every moment. The other partner - hold space for your partner in loving presence, no need to rescue, but rather allow. Don't miss the shift of energy and continue surfing on what is.
Follow your life energy without manipulating it, being the devotee of the wise Goddess that flows through you. Serve the Goddess, not your partner. Surrender to it. Your partner does the same. This way you and your partner will be served manifold. This is called Consecration.
Breath your pleasure IN and circulate it all over your body. I notice people by default exhale more when feeling pleasure unconsciously trying to release it instead of letting it build up and expand. Learn to last longer in intimate connection without peak orgasm. Discover whole body orgasm that doesn't (always) require physical release.
Respect yours and your partner's Yes's and No's by staying tuned in to your own body and to your partner's expanding or contracting energy. Take responsibility for your own experience.
It takes some practice, but once mastered, these principles will take your love making to a whole new level that you will say: "What have I been doing until now?!"
You'll say good bye to any monotony, pleasing behavior, routine, or any other stuff as the boring ghosts of the past, starting the journey of expansion into the most ecstatic and alive version of yourself.
