just came back from a long weekend in Ghent and after opening my emails, I'm pleasantly surprised that we are already sold OUT for next Module 1 "Conscious Intimacy Retreat" on September 5-8th, which is more than a month in advance! 😯🤭
The intense retreats season in Belgium is complete for now... till the end of August when "Tantra Massage for Beginners" will kick off again and in the beginning of September the 1 Year Tantra Program "Expansion into Love" will re-start with a new group, this time near Ghent.
I like working with controversial things. I like working with conditioning. I like to have a good laugh when people share with me what they imagine happens in my retreats.
People who touched on my work sometimes ask me: "Would not it be better to not call it Tantra? There is an opinion out there that Tantra is all about sex and group sex. But it's not what happens in your retreats."
You know, I'm here on Ibiza, in one of its untouched parts in the nature. Birds are singing, sea is so beaitiful and clean. And I'm just once again so grateful to nature, to my body being part of it. Nature is the place where mind calms down the fastest. NATURE - our source and foundation of this physical existence and our biggest teacher.
There is no one particular way how a Woman better be or should be. Patriarchy dictated how we must be for a long time, but now the free Female is rising again in many parts of this planet. Rising in her inborn wisdom into her freedom and power!
GROWTH being one of my core values ever since I remember myself (next to FREEDOM and AUTHENTICITY), means I will never settle in the 'expert' role. The moment I have learned something, my spirit calls me to evolve further. I spent and am still spending most of my free time and money on learning/unlearning, and I doubt it will change. :-)
Yesterday, we had a very raw revealing conversation about all the underlying thoughts, emotions and beliefs that drive us in our relating. After speaking them out from both sides, we could see the full picture and both were astonished at the amount of assumptions that happened on each side and which created a lot of twisted interpretations.
This is one of the most crucial things to realize.
Consciously or unconsciously, I create my Reality.
When I feel great, it's easy to say: "Look what I've created!"
But in times of turmoil, I wish I could say: "It's because of him or her, or them or life itself that it's happening". It's just so much easier to blame someone or something for any unpleasant experience than to look inside and see what creates this experience.
When people ask me what I do and I say that I am a Tantra teacher with the focus of my programs on love, sexuality and relationships, I like to look at their reactions. Because the reaction, in a matter of milliseconds, reveals to me their attitude towards Sexuality, towards their Body, how they make Love, how connected they are to their Emotions and so much more...
Not everything is pinky rosy in relationships - what to do when sh.t hits the fan? 💔
Are you finding yourself in an unpleasant pattern with your beloved?
Having worked with many couples in the past, I see that the most common reason of long disconnection between two people is the belief that it's the other who needs to change. Rarely people see their own responsibility in co-creating the undesirable reality.
At the age of 11, I entered an Orthodox church for the 1st time. I was kicked out of it in a matter of minutes by an old lady who sold candles at the entrance. I made a cross with my LEFT hand. That was WRONG! "You are from the Devil!" she screamed. Little I knew who that 'guy' was, so I did not take it too personally. My grandma clarified it for me though that very same day.
In the last Open Tantra Workshop in Brussels a couple of days ago, we spoke about it extensively and we also did a powerful practice, as a result of which some people started arriving to the realization that owning your pleasure is in fact in the same realm as self-love. Because we can not own our pleasure without self-love, and we can't holistically love ourselves if we are not experiencing pleasure in our body.
The past couple of months I can now call with a smile "the period of internal UPGRADE". Not only myself, but also so many other people went through some considerable re-definition in their life, clearing the old and opening up to the unknown or something new. These transition times are usually not easy because a lot is being re-shaped internally and as a consequence also externally.
Maybe you too went through something similar recently?
Clarity of Vision was my request for many days in a row now and I feel that hanging in the possibility of it opened up a lot of insights and led me to people, books and experiences that kept and keep revealing things. By far, I don't believe I have arrived anywhere... And probably never will. That's what I suspect.
Even if your mind tells you that what you have to say is not important, or you doubt whether it is "correct" or 100% perfect, or maybe you believe that others can say it better, dare to share it anyway.
It doesn't have to be perfect. There is no such a thing as "correct" or "perfect" anyway.
It's so powerful to let go of it all and from this free unattached space see and feel.
I thank this collective space on Facebook where I can initiate or be part of a virtual circle. It doesn't even have to be live. This virtual space surprisingly carries the same power when I step into it with purity of intent as if it were a live circle. And so your contributions made me tune into what resonated and what not and thus allowed to gain greater clarity into my own truth.
The moment I acknowledged the state fully (referring to my previous post) and allowed myself to be seen in this by you all, there was no single bit left to hide or to deny it any more, and that in itself brought peace. Yes, it IS happening. All crumbled.
I still have no clue and still no desire for anything, but I can find rest in it now. Anxiety that was present a few days in a row subsided.