Respect your Boundaries

One of the biggest causes for feelings of frustration, anger and even rage is overstepping our own boundaries or letting others overstep our boundaries.

I believe that we can not be of TRUE SERVICE to anyone when we do something that doesn't feel right for us.

If it doesn't feel right for us to do something for whatever reason, may it even be the most noble reason on Earth, it is not meant for us.

Boundaries are about self-respect and knowing our limits. Healthy boundaries help us feel loved, valued, and respected and are a key component of strong and happy relationships.

Respecting our boundaries is also the source of good HEALTH and BEAUTY, because frustration can really take a toll on overall well being, especially if it is repetitive. You can see it in dimmed people's eyes, their quality of skin and their sunk posture.

There can be many reasons why something doesn't feel right. It could be that it never felt right for you in the first place or not any more. And for someone else it might not even be relatable or understandable, but if something doesn't feel right for You, then it's your responsibility to respect it.

Boundaries have consequences.

When we allow people to transgress our boundaries without consequences, we teach them that it is acceptable. Often, when a boundary is crossed, we may get angry but don't know what to do beyond that. This ends up in disappointment again and again.

There will always be people who either don't understand or don't respect your boundaries. This is not a problem, this is just a given. It's what you do about it that matters. It's how you reinforce your boundaries that will kick you out of balance or keep you strong.

Consequences must follow if the boundaries are transgressed. And of course, we want to communicate consequences in advance and not act them out as a surprise.

Authentic boundaries is one of the highest forms of self-love. Most people who struggle with setting and respecting their boundaries also struggle with self-love.

Over-givers

People-pleasers

Conflict-avoiders

People who identify with the word "should"

One of the best ways to cultivate SELF-LOVE is to re-align with your authentic YES's and NO's.

And the most un-surprising consequence of respecting your own boundaries is that other people also start respecting you MORE, not LESS. Because it's SAFE to be with you when you are clear what's right for you and what's not.

What's your relationship to your own and other people's boundaries?

Alexa Mira